The deepest, most robust fear I felt growing up as a female in the Christian church was being honest about my deepest struggle—pornography. The idea of opening up about my secret sin was almost unthinkable. I swore to never confess, because I truly thought I was the only one who had ever had this problem and this desire. I hit a breaking point and couldn’t hold in my secret any longer. Sharing with another woman was one of the most frightening things I have ever done, but the wave of relief of knowing that I wasn’t alone was worth it all.
From that point forward, the Lord began to show me, through the power of vulnerability, that I wasn’t alone in this battle. A battle I thought only men were supposed to deal with turned out to be a burden that too many of us women were carrying in silence. I began to share my story openly with those around me, and my life was never the same. Hearing other women’s stories brought such a profound sense of freedom. I began to think that there must be a way more women could hear each other’s real stories. That’s when I realized, there is such a great need for resources on this topic. What better way to break down walls than by sharing women’s real experiences, accompanied with solid biblical truth?
Thus, this book was born.
Not Just a Man’s Problem contains 11 chapters, seven of which are testimonies from women ages 19-26 centered around their personal struggles with pornography. The other four chapters are topical, research-based chapters, with topics including biblical sexuality, masturbation, parenting, and shame. These chapters work together to reveal the reality that pornography is not just a man’s problem.